Tag: DV

As someone with BPD, I have become pretty interested in watching these court cases.

I tried to give her a fair chance to explain a valid story.

But to sit there and say, you were hit by a grown man “so many times you couldn’t remember” with massive rings on almost every finger and all you have is a bruise on your arm.

From my experience, that is a bruise by someone trying to defend himself. My ex had scratches, he was probably the sweatiest human on the face of the earth. Pushing him away from me while not wearing a shirt, and physically attacking me.. he obtained scratches.

I get bruises all the damn time. Sometimes they’re impressively massive also, im clumsy..

The bruises I had from being in an abusive relationship looked nothing like a small mark from an arm grab. The marks I got on my face, from a hand with zero rings on it were not anything I could hide with foundation. Trust me, the effort was very much made. It was mortifying to walk into work like that.

If you took a picture of a bruise, you would have taken pictures of your face after being hit in the face. AND from what is described, you would have a mark/marks that wouldn’t be able to covered up with makeup.

It shouldn’t take this long to realize shes the abuser. I don’t exactly think all of this time is necessary…I mean she’s paying for her lies clearly.

Watching her make a mockery of Domestic Violence towards women with Borderline…is cringy.

It feels like shes now slapping the amount of people that have endured real abuse, and live everyday with it. Nevertheless, with an illness that makes it hard enough to live life anyways, right in the face.

I feel like with BPD, its so hard to compare any single human to another with the SAME diagnosis.

I can be manipulative without even knowing I am, or meaning to be. Unfortunately thats just how it is. But I physically have control over my body, just maybe not my mind. I could never bring myself to punch him. I just couldn’t, not even in defense.

Most people honestly, don’t have the brain capacity to understand an illness as complex as borderline.

We can be the abuser, or we can be the abused.

The villains make the headlines, the bad ones are so loud they steal the voices of the ones trying to get better, and be better. The ones who want to help, not hurt.